"People can be better or worse at seeing opportunities to make their affection apparent to the one they love. They can be better or worse at seeing what the needs or problems of the other might be; at recognizing the impact of their own behaviour on the other. This has nothing to do with strength of feeling or intensity of longing. Instead it has everything to do with perceptual acuity and imagination." John Armstrong, in Conditions of love - the philosophy of intimacy, ed. Penguin.